HOW TO COPE WITH SELF DOUBT
L O O K I N G F O R W A R D - HOW TO COPE WITH SELF DOUBT
Sometimes it can be so hard to look towards your future because we’re either stuck in the past OR afraid of what’s to come. I’m going to be completely honest, I’m so SCARED of what’s to come. When we moved to Houston, Andrew and I decided that I was able to put pause on my professional career and focus on my entrepreneurial dreams of owning my own business(es) full time. I have my blog that I’m able to make money off of and my fashion collars that I sell on Etsy and to boutiques. When I was working full time and trying to balance my business, it was so hard on me, my relationships, and my brand. I felt like . wasn’t able to truly put up 100% to anything.
Y’all everything in my life feels so insane. In a good and bad way. I’ve never been more busy doing this, then when I was working in an office setting. Maybe it’s because when I’m working from home it’s hard to actually check out of work, which means sometimes I’m working 8:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m. and then again 8:00 p.m. - 11:00 p.m. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m uber busy but oh so H A P P Y! I love what I do, even if it means I’m on #teamnosleep for a couple of days. BUT since working for myself full time, I’ve also never felt more self doubt and suffered from imposter syndrome in my life. I’m a communication major so let me explain what imposter syndrome is, it might seem self explanatory but hey, not everyone knows. Take a peek at this article where they thoroughly explain what imposter syndrome is and how to overcome it. I know I’ve working extremely hard to get to where I am today but sometimes I truly feel like I’m living a life that isn’t mine. I especially felt that way after attending NYFW where I went to shows that super famous celebrities attended too. INSANE y’all.
It’s literally a daily struggle to be positive and keep on going. I keep asking myself questions like will this work? Will people purchase my guides? Will people purchase my collars. Thank god for tea and yoga, y’all. Seriously. The way I best cope is to look at the goals I set for myself way back when and then look at where I am today. A whole hell of a lot further than where I thought I would be. I also step back and look at all the work I do everyday and realize that I do deserve to be where I am today because I’ve worked extremely hard for it. I guess what I’m trying to say is that my biggest piece of advice for curing your self doubt is talking about it, or writing about it. After I wrote this post out, I seriously felt like I could breathe a little more. Additionally, I continue to write out my goals and aspirations. It helps to keep me calm and focused.
I always want to share my feelings and stressers with y’all too bc that’s REAL f***ing life. I’m in a limbo phase right now of writing constantly and emailing a bajillion people but I know as long as I keep on pushing forward I’ll be okay. Even if I fail, I’ll be okay because that’s a lesson learned. I want to encourage you, even if you’re afraid, to keep on going. Keep on trying to reach your dreams.
Y O U C A N
Love Always,
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